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Sharing

The essence of sharing is kindness.

The way we share forms bonds and creates endless interactions. Shared knowledge, resources, time, and space has led to a connected society that invites everyone to do more with less. The idea of such generosity seems simple, and yet, the focus on our own well-being leads to egocentric sharing that is more selfish in nature. Children fighting over a toy and adults showing off by sharing may seem unrelated, but the histrionic call for attention remains the same.

How then, can we lead without being selfish?

Perhaps harmony lies on a continuum of intent. If we leverage what we have by sharing without recognition, space remains for sharing in ways that may attract the right type/amount of attention. Give, and it will be given to you. Another weighted tactic is to over share without including your own agenda. As Kyle Tut shared during his visit to Des Moines, shill five before asking for one. This 5:1 ratio nurtures selflessness.

In addition to benevolent tactics, a helpful mindset is to just #GiveFirst. When sharing returns to an act of kindness, generosity builds trust, engaged networks flourish, and the spotlight can be given to those who need it.

By Ben McDougal, ago

Wildly 41

I turn 41 at 1:41PM EST on May 19th, 2023.

As I reflect on a few recent birthday wishes, my 33rd birthday wish was granted, there’s less anticipation and a compelling sense of retirement from 39 remains on tap, and this year’s birthday definitely feels less poetic than Eclipsing 40, but I’m still here. Let’s celebrate.

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What’s one word to describe your work?

One word to sum up my work this year, is wild. I remain thankful for the privilege to perceptually learn through the art of connection, content creation, and exploration on the frontiers of technology. Here are a few ways we’ve continued to collaborate together!

Along with the wild in my work, I’m just as grateful for the health and happiness of family and friends. There are countless milestones that have brewed joy in different ways. While most will remain cherished without sharing, here are a few memorable moments that have art to accompany the adventure. Stay wild my friends!

©1982-2023

By Ben McDougal, ago

Gimmies

Gimmies are illegal under the Rules of Golf.

So why is the gimmie so common on the golf course? Does picking up your golf ball without tapping that “unmissable” putt really save much time? What’s the harm in a clean finish? Isn’t it worth hearing the satisfying sound of your golf ball dropping into the cup?

If you’re like me, most gimmies are not unmissable. Here lies the truth. People give gimmies so they will be given a break on short putts they might miss. There’s nothing wrong with keeping things casual, but tacit assumptions leave room for misunderstandings.

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May your feet always stay in the fairway.

If we golf together, you know I’m 100% chill. I’ve learned golf is like a walk in the park with a small objective, but if you’re keeping score, see how it feels to not give or take gimmies. Appreciate the short putts you miss. Count those extra strokes, knowing an unequivocal finish feels good and builds confidence for when gifts aren’t up for grabs.

By Ben McDougal, ago

Allergy Shots

I’ve embarked on a campaign to cure my seasonal allergies. Trying to understand the details of this immunotherapy reminds me how clarity effects confidence.

With allergy shots that require weekly visits for the first several months, then monthly visits for 2-5 years, you’d think there would be a sharp collection of resources to highlight treatment options, insurance codes linked to cost of care, and benefits/risk comparisons.

Proactively investing in your health is hard enough. Feeling like you’re taking a gamble without clarity on how a long-term effort may (or may not) come together, makes it way harder. I understand that healthcare is complex because everyone’s body and health habits are different, but there’s seemingly enough commonality to allow for a solid base of standardization, paired with different options and disclaimers to keep the variables in focus. Wish me luck, but this decision-making process has been cloaked in fog.

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“Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling five balls in the air. Work, family, health, friends, and spirit. And you’re keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls – family, health, friends, and spirit – are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same.” –Bryan Dyson

As we look through the lens of entrepreneurship, delivering fearless clarity may put you on the hook and will turn some prospects away, but it adds efficiency to the sales process and leads to more satisfaction from better customers.

This does not mean we simplify everything. Simplification is polarizing, so delivering confidence through clarity is more about sequencing. Try delivering less information to ensure clarity, then support a well communicated slowness with connected resources to meet a prospect’s specific needs. This sequenced effort gives people what they need, when they need it. When everyone feels informed, confidence increases and the opportunity for more lasting collaboration is refined.

By Ben McDougal, ago

Pebbles

If you’ve ever attended a live sporting event, you’ve heard Sandstorm jam through the crowd. This 1999 track was spun by the Finnish DJ and record producer, Darude.

When this EDM icon visited PLATFORM in Des Moines, I said “yes” to adventure and was rewarded with a memorable moment. I was capturing some loud video from the front and all the sudden, Darude called for my GoPro! Footage with a DJ on stage is crazy enough, but having a world-renowned artist grab your camera to shoot their own video is something a bit more epic. Of course, this meant I had to mix up a fresh edit.

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Darude 🪩 Des Moines on YouTube

Before the set even started, everyone knew Sandstorm would be played. Darude delivered his classic, but the build up was perfect. The tiny pebbles he stacked into his set kept the crowd teeming with anticipation. Each time he dropped hints from Sandstorm, the crowd went wild and when his hammer finally dropped, the place absolutely shook. We’ve all enjoyed concerts where sequenced sound brings everything together. These impeccable build ups remind us how to stay juicy.

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My latest innovation drops April 1st, 2023. Here’s your sneak peek!

When delivering your best becomes a habit, it’s easier to remain consistent. As persistence deepens loyalty, connection leads to more connection and trust leads to more trust. Within such abundance, a lasting appreciation remains on tap for what you’ve achieved in the past, while also brewing fresh intrigue for whatever is next. This makes your work feel like play and as we dance to the endless beat, individual notes align to define your music. Over time, artists can blend these pebbles into an extraordinary wall that’s unmistakably you.

By Ben McDougal, ago