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Hybridize

Remember being a kid and waking up to a winter wonderland? Snow day! Fresh powder means mayhem for many, but all that mattered back then was how quickly we could get outside to enjoy the day’s frosty gift. After a rushed breakfast, twas time to mint snow angels, roll up a snowman, and hit the sledding hill.

As we arrived atop the neighborhood glacier, the interactions of a temporary community began to form. The actors were always different yet played traditional roles. First-time sledders were excited but timid. Action junkies pushed to go faster, with adults on snow patrol.

Among the common players, hybrids presented an interesting twist. These were the children who appreciated exhilarating activity but also united others by creating space to ensure newcomers were safe and having fun too. There was an empathetic maturity in their welcoming enthusiasm.

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Successful adults do not lose their childhood spirit.

Fast forward, and hybrids continue to bring us together. Teachers inspire the next generation and encourage students to think differently. Technologists translate nerd to normal. Intrapreneurs shepherd positive change inside existing organizations. Founders use existing resources to create new realities and community builders act like spiders, weaving a web, tightening its connections, and activating the vibrations of opportunity to proactively push progress.

There are many other types of hybrids who inclusively identify all that may be possible. Leaders like this welcome a full spectrum of interactions between everything. They are nimble, encourage complexity, and mobilize diverse perspectives to facilitate more relevant, long-lasting impact.

For the hybrids among us, thank you. Stay curious, don’t underestimate your limitless value, and bring others along for the ride to avoid obstacles over time.

For those who may not feel such a unifying spirit, continue to lead the tribes you trust but know that fresh opportunity awaits the intellectually humble. Avoid the temptation to simplify everything and invite doubt. This open-minded empathy makes things more interesting and will unlock fresh ways for those you care about to achieve even more.

Brewed From Within
#71 📖 Technology

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The original riff, as seen in comments, included this 2021 year-end Tweetstorm and introduced a linked library to explore all that became Roasted Reflections (2020-2025).

By Ben McDougal, ago

Open to Next

Honest resolutions provide direction. Appreciating the past, setting goals, and planning for the future guides enthusiasm and sustained action. Along with measured milestones, dare to be different by staying open to things not in the plan. This fluidity helps us avoid the limiting effect of being too rigid.

Think about your last vacation. You locked in travel, accommodations, and an assortment of prepared activities. You basically scripted the adventure. If all goes to plan, you’ll enjoy the trip, but how often does everything go exactly to plan? Almost never, yet the unexpected detours often lead to the best memories.

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Higher the contrast, better the story.

There are times to be stringent, and discipline is useful, but embracing the plot twists of life ensures that perseverance doesn’t become misguided. This is ambitious when control is comforting, but let good habits provide the comfort, with openness to churn goals into surpassing accomplishments.

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#90 📖 Life & Happiness

By Ben McDougal, ago

Santa is Real

Humans tell stories.

Storytelling is the way we communicate and a key to humanity’s evolution. The stories we share come in all genres, but each one builds a different type of connection.

Stories often exist for a moment, but some are passed for generations. The most successful stories humans have told may be those about science, mathematics, religion, or money, but holidays may also land on this list of extraordinary, generational storytelling.

In the United States, 11 federal holidays are all observed in their own way, but Christmas (and comparable year-end celebrations around the world) creates a special atmosphere. In fact, the entire calendar and our fundamental sense of time seem to revolve around this cozy time of year.  

Christmas is when we pause to remember the year that was and look forward to what’s next. With such a shared inflection point, the year-end holiday season has created many recognizable symbols. Many traditions revolve around religion and just as many do not, but the legend of Santa seems synonymous with the holiday spirit.

Whether you believe in Santa or not, it’s hard to argue with how well this jolly character embodies the essence of treasured time, cute mystic, generosity, and joy.

Think of the generational stories, decorations, letters to Santa, gifts, music, events, movies, more gifts, and all that is integral to the holiday season. Such a story told within culture can spark an undeniable, personal truth.

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Watching little ones lean into the holiday spirit makes us grateful and fills us with pure wonder. Children may be our favorite stories of all, so have fun telling them!

Great stories bring us together. If the result is anything close to the beautiful innocence of a child’s sparkle around the holiday seasons, I’m a believer and thankful that Santa is real.

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#103 📖 Life & Happiness

By Ben McDougal, ago

One & Only

The weight of one is heavy. Something so rare makes us feel like we have only one chance to get it right.

If the one-and-only is inanimate, we never want it diminished. If it’s alive, we seek the futile tranquility of immortality. The desire for everlasting sustainability pressed against the tension of time can make oneness a bit overwhelming. This emotion can devolve into a fear of change and selfish preservation.

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Freedom awaits on the timeline of now.

Being present is hard when we’re always reflecting on the past and thinking about the future, but what choice do we have? Altering the past is not an option. All we have is now, but the present never stops passing. Time becomes an endless transition. Within the blur, gratitude provides peace. It invites us to cherish our one and onlys.

Such admiration acknowledges the past, allows the present to be a gift, and instills renewed optimism for what’s next. For all that is one and only, we say thank you.

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#117 📖 Life & Happiness

By Ben McDougal, ago

#1 DAD

Startups that pay in love are a blank
canvas that comes to life through us.

By nature, parents want to provide the means for children to go beyond their potential. Family requires immeasurable resources, but the love from our kids unlocks more hours in the day. The added productivity comes from seeing the best of ourselves in someone we care so much about. Purpose is renewed and the heart we put into our creative work can make our presence as parents even more interesting.

Summon Stories

Children grow up fast, so we stay in the moment. Everyone tells us to cherish the simple joys of life, but it may be worth getting a little extra creative. One way to enhance your family’s ability to relive memorable moments, is by using multimedia marketing skills to summon family stories.

Every moment is special. As creation becomes second nature, handpicked memories can be stitched together to revisit interactively, any time, with or without you.

Most of us have an endless collection of photos and video on our smartphone, but scrolling around on a digital device doesn’t translate into something a group can enjoy together. It’s easy for good things to get lost in so much noise and spoken storytelling is always merry too, but why not paint more stories with a few added brushes?

Quiet relics like photo slideshows, something printed that sits beautifully on the shelf, a mix of audio recordings, art on the wall, or a cinematic feature film that highlights your adventures. You’re the creator with endless ways to create.

We all do a form of this, because family is our favorite, but the time required is real. A rigid cadence is not required, since any day is a good day to ship this type of of art. In the early days of photos and video, it was only birthdays and Christmas — now everyday is a holiday. No need to rush, but keep producing new surprises. Everyone will love the end result and as more come together, the growing playlist becomes a sequence of stories that follow kids growing up. With our constant collection of content, a good story is always ready to tell, but at a minimum, why not share an annual gift with your kids, partner, and other loved ones?

Along the way, attentive and controlled organization will make a growing collection of relics easier to craft. This takes an ongoing commitment, but file management is easy and helps bring life to life with shared memories.

Your future self will then thank you for an effort to organize this heartfelt content. Share in public if you want, but that can alter the art if it becomes a show. Do it for yourself and your favorite people first. Organize what will be a massive library offline, then, if you want play with the transitory channels of social media, that’s a personal choice.

No matter who resists whatever it may be, time compiling legacy projects will rarely feel wasted. It’s using our real skills to commemorate those we love. Scanned memories may give us content without capturing it in the future. For now, it’s up to us to trap time for personal storytelling.

Compensation is not money, but this does enhance your content creation skills for other areas in life. Technology also makes editing content more productive, but this is not your average task. This is the type of sincere storytelling you enjoy spending time with.

As kids grow up, these projects will have the lowest view counts, but always be your very favorite. Looking ahead, it’s crazy to imagine being a child right now, then receiving such a gift from my parents someday!

You’ve Got Mail

Consider setting up an email for your little one. This inbox can be used as a communication channel to write to your child as they grow up. Whether you start writing before they are born or later in their life, imagine what a gift this inbox will be in the future! This email address can be shared with family and used for online accounts if you want, but at a minimum, this curates a personalized time machine full of thoughtful updates.

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Along with sentimental content, your kids will appreciate an email address that can be used after childhood. First and last name with your preferred email provider should stand the test of time. This is also a good chance to register a URL using their first and last name. This can connect to their email or support a personal website someday.

Avoid Routine

“Time flies” and “they grow up so fast” is accurate, but avoiding routine may slow down time.

The freedom to be spontaneous is a privilege and everyone will define such flexibility differently, but a proven path to explore such a reality is entrepreneurship. Boundless hard work, dedication, and resiliency are what this lifestyle takes, but suffering provides a stronger sense of purpose.

As this purpose is layered in later stages of life, experiential wisdom can be channeled into more treasured time doing things that make us happy. While hardship is part of the deal, children make their parents happy. Perhaps a reward for parents who lead by example, is the opportunity to share everything with those who matter most.

By Ben McDougal, ago