Mindset

Sharing

The essence of sharing is kindness. This type of kindness forms bonds and endless interactions.

Humanity’s interest in sharing has led to a connected society that invites everyone to do more with less. The idea of such generosity seems simple, yet, the focus on our own well-being leads to egocentric sharing that is more selfish in nature. Children fighting over a toy and adults showing off may seem unrelated, but the histrionic call for attention remains the same. How, then, can we lead without being selfish?

Perhaps harmony lies on a continuum of intent. If we leverage what we have by sharing without a need for recognition, attention is earned without hidden agendas. Although this form of selflessness is not philanthropy, there is less concern for how it is rewarded. When sharing returns to an altruistic act, generosity builds trust, engaged networks flourish, and kindness melds to accelerate those who need it.

Brewed From Within
#123 đź“– Life & Happiness

By Ben McDougal, ago

Seasonality

Seasonal changes are revitalizing. The awakening of spring, the relaxation of summer, the release of fall, the refreshment of winter, and endless surprises keep us all bewildered. What if seasons apply to our work as well?

Agility awaits those who think of a job, specific roles, projects, experiments, side hustles, content creation, or entire business ventures more like creative seasons.

Quality takes time and consistency requires sacrifice, but seasons change. This reality makes decisions easier to make and action more accessible. Stress is typical when we care enough to ship something we’re proud of, and yet, every story ends. Embracing the seasonality of impermanence trims the fat of forever.

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Seasons change but never lack significance.

As we dance with new pieces of our own puzzle, milestones track progress and a beginner’s mindset keeps valiant optimism flowing. When a creative season begins to connect with the right audience at the right time, a nourishing sense of success emerges, which can extend that creative season. No matter how long a creative season lasts, prudent awareness along the way helps leaders remain harmonized with how time is invested, while the subtle lightness adds liberating vibes to keep an uncharted future interesting.

In the event energy begins to stall, as it often does, ensure you’ve done what’s needed to push through dips, gather feedback from diverse perspectives, avoid isolation, and be honest with if/how you want to continue navigating this quest. When these inevitable impasses arise, find your own version of unanimity, knowing that even if a creative season is held in abeyance, seasonality makes something you spent time with more natural to return to in the future.

If it’s time to leave one season behind, avoid potential regret by appreciating the progress made. Take time to reflect on learnings, put the old seasonal decorations away, and maintain relationships as you regenerate energy and lean into whatever season is next.

Brewed From Within
#62 đź“– Leadership

By Ben McDougal, ago

Not to Lose

Whether it was traveling with the teams my dad coached as a kid, playing club soccer at an early age, monopolizing my time in high school, playing all through college, or being the focus of my first entrepreneurial venture, soccer was a part of my identity for over 20 years. I’ve since shifted toward the more secret exercise of golf, but memories remain, and sports have so many playful metaphors.

Sports and other organized activities help us push to be our best, and the sense of belonging is the real magic.

No matter the sport, it can be easy to get ahead before slipping into a dangerous trap. Instead of staying sharp by maintaining the offensive pressure that earned an early advantage, it’s natural to start playing not to lose.

In soccer, this often means a team sinks back into an overly defensive formation. Less variety invites frantic desperation, and the added pressure often leads to the opposing squad scoring an equalizing goal. Even if the need for another goal shifts your team back into a more balanced attack, the momentum has shifted.

When applied to business, getting ahead and then playing not to lose can be seen all over the map. For instance, snagging a few early adopters, then assuming customer discovery is over. Hiring new talent, then just hoping everyone can work together. Launching a new product with existing customers, then not supporting them through the chasm of change. Securing product-market fit, then avoiding innovation due to a misguided sense of risk. Finding generous mentors, then forgetting to nurture relationships. Those are just a few ways we get ahead, then play to lose, but many leaders are lulled into this trap.

Tactics to stay ahead differ based on situational factors, but when in doubt, trust that uncertainty is certain. Be strategic to avoid recklessness, then maintain pressure and stay on the offensive by leaning into the pain.

As you find fresh ways to serve customers, continue celebrating milestones and stay ahead with more initiative to keep playing beyond the fear of losing.

Brewed From Within
#30 đź“– Entrepreneurship

By Ben McDougal, ago

Intrinsic

We all have bad days. When they string together, the stress gets heavy. This mental weight becomes especially unwieldy when the cause is unclear. If down days stack up, searching for the origin can lead to liberating awareness.

This is not a simple pursuit. Emotions are transient, external factors remain in flux, and the labyrinth of life is winding. General therapy is helpful, but well-being within the entrepreneurial lifestyle is a moving target.

To start, destigmatize the circuitry between leadership and mental health. Be content knowing it’s not always rainbows and unicorns. This is a lonely rollercoaster with highs and lows at every turn. Recognizing this helps us appreciate the impermanence of emotions.

Leaders thrive on being exposed to new things, interesting problems, stories from different people, and building into whatever we care about. When there’s a lull in the action, it’s easy to think the ride is over. While this thought may be misguided, it’s disheartening and can lead to an isolating absence of joy. Identifying intrinsic motivations help leaders navigate and go beyond temporary despair.

As the highs of a milestone moment start to fade, be honest with your situation and don’t shy away from what got you there. Intrinsic motivators—like the love for family, fun with friends, helping others, thinking big, physical activity, and perceptual learning—guide us back to peace and happiness.

Along with internal observations, lean on peers who understand the realities of an entrepreneurial lifestyle. Welcome sincere conversations loaded with listening, and you’ll soon have others wanting to help you in return.

Here are a few more effective ways inquisitive leaders can actively maintain their mental fitness:

  • Try new things.
  • Reconnect with nature.
  • Travel to expand the mind.
  • Link teaching with learning.
  • Create more than you consume.
  • Stay centered with physical/mental exercise.
  • Avoid isolation; don’t be afraid to ask for help.

    Strength does not come from ignoring pain. Within the crucible of an entrepreneurial lifestyle, hardship is inevitable, but storms will pass and self-inquiry keeps leaders aware of their own fortitude. This reveals more stepping stones that illuminate fresh motivation to help leaders transcend momentary setbacks.

    Brewed From Within
    #121 đź“– Life & Happiness

    By Ben McDougal, ago

    Winterizing

    As temperatures drop, those who live in seasonal climates prepare for winter. There are chores around the house and year-end tasks to wrap-up in business.

    Transitional times can be uplifting, but the coming chill can also freeze progress. A temptation to coast makes it easy to push action into the future, but in doing so, a message that once united momentum can start to feel dispirited.

    The team has earned a relaxing break, but what goals were not accomplished? Instead of putting progress on ice, reverse engineer past goals to determine whether a few final acts might move the needle. These sneaky achievements add closure and a positive boost for initiatives after the break.

    Doing what’s easy delays hardship, but this resistance causes suffering. Winterize your world by attacking hardship. This demonstrates commitment, and the cold will feel more like an elegant refreshment that conditions invincible warmth.

    Brewed From Within
    #102 đź“– Life & Happiness

    By Ben McDougal, ago